When we arrived at our new location, we quickly found a church that seemed a good fit for our family. The preaching was scriptural and inspiring, and the worship was amazing. After attending for a few weeks, the pastor announced that they were having a monthly fellowship meal after the Sunday morning worship service. We gathered our three children from their respective classes and the nursery and joined several people at a large, round table to eat lunch.

During the meal Kevin and I tried to engage the other people in conversation, but apparently they didn’t care to socialize outside their own little group. We felt like intruders. Chalking it up to a random event, we attended the next fellowship meal the following month. This time we sat next to two couples who must have been best friends forever because once again we weren’t included in their conversation. Once we introduced ourselves, the couples turned their attention to each other. We felt invisible.

After praying about it, we decided to look for another place to worship. We’re pleased with our new church, whose members warmly welcomed us. Because of our previous experience, we’re involved in a ministry to newcomers. We know how we felt when we were ignored, and we want people to feel included in the body of Christ.

Next Sunday make a point to reach out to visitors and new members at your church. Make them feel welcome. Ask the Lord to help you notice when someone needs a friend, and be one.