So Hard
So Hard
Rise in the presence of the elderly and honor the old. (Lev. 19:32)
Theresa sighed in frustration as she learned of her mother’s condition. Two months earlier Michelle and Scott, Theresa’s daughter and son-in-law, along with their two little boys and their dog, moved in with Theresa, her husband, Jim, and their two dogs. Scott had been laid off and was unable to find a job. With mounting debt and unexpected medical expenses, eventually their house went into foreclosure. Now Theresa’s mother was no longer able to care for herself and needed someone to care for her.
“I want to help Mom, but right now we don’t even have space for an air mattress on the floor, much less a place Mom would find restful,” Theresa said to her sister Janet.
“Bob and I have an extra bedroom, but I think we should talk to Mom’s doctors and see what they recommend before we make a decision.” Janet paused and then added, “Her doctor may recommend a nursing home.”
Theresa was silent for a moment. “Maybe Jim and I should meet with you and Bob so we can all pray about it together. I just want what’s best for Mom. This is so hard.”
When an elderly parent or loved one becomes less independent, steps must be taken to secure the best care possible. This is a stressful time for everyone. Regardless of the solution, be especially sensitive to the feelings of your loved one who may grieve the loss of independence.
If you have an elderly relative who needs special care, seek God’s will and pray for wisdom. Proverbs 2:6 says, “For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding.” Check with your local church or government to learn about programs that provide assistance for the elderly.