Monica was the one who usually reminded the boys to bow their heads while she prayed before the meal. Because Mike once said he wasn’t comfortable praying aloud, she always spoke the prayers at family meals and bedtimes but hoped he would eventually step up and become the spiritual leader in their home. So far Mike hadn’t attempted to own that role.

Monica listened more closely to the lively conversation in the dining room. She heard chairs scooting closer to the table and then Mike’s firm, steady voice saying, “Boys, let’s bow our heads.” There was a pause, then, “Father, thank You . . .”

Closing her eyes, Monica breathed a prayer of her own. Lord, help me get out of the way so Mike has the opportunity to be the spiritual leader. Show me how to encourage him in that role.

Some women complain that their husbands don’t take the spiritual lead in their home. Whether the husband is unsaved, spiritually immature, or seemingly unmotivated, he simply won’t (or perhaps can’t) lead his family. What can a wife do in such a case?

First, pray for your husband to have an increased desire for the things of God and to know how to lead you graciously. Next, give him opportunities to lead. Treat him like a leader and be willing to follow. And try not to criticize when he does lead.