More Marriage Lessons
More Marriage Lessons
“It must not be like that among you. On the contrary, whoever is greatest among you must become like the youngest, and whoever leads, like the one serving.” (Luke 22:26)
On Defense
The context of our verse today is a dispute that arose among the disciples over who would be the greatest. The prior verse reveals that this silly exercise stemmed from a comment Jesus made that one from their ranks would betray Him. The disciples defended themselves to each other, leading to an argument driven by pride. In this setting Jesus shows the contrast between servant leadership and domination.
On Offense
Isn’t that sometimes true of us? When our marriage reveals a character flaw, we try to reestablish ourselves as head of the house (as if someone had taken that away), making decisions and exercising authority without also showing humility and servitude. When this happens, our wives are left without a voice and the consideration they deserve and need.
Servant leadership, on the other hand, calls for humility and a commitment to meet the spiritual, emotional, and physical needs of our spouse. One of the most important ways we can do that is by listening. This doesn’t mean we subjugate our opinions or defer every decision. Rather, we stop to consider her needs and concerns, seeing how our decisions will affect her and the rest of the family. Instead of arguing until we win or insisting on having the final word, we promote and nurture our wife and the perspective she brings.
Bottom Line
Being the “dominant male” is best left to apes and lions. Jesus taught us to lead with humility, service, and a listening ear.