Marriage Workout
Marriage Workout
The training of the body has a limited benefit, but godliness is beneficial in every way, since it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. (1 Tim. 4:8)
Turning Pain . . .
When we work out, we expect the soreness that comes from torn and strained muscles. We know that some pain and discomfort are necessary in order to build new muscle and get us into the shape we want to be in. The same is true in marriage. Since marriage is the union of two imperfect people, struggles and dissatisfaction are inherent. But clashes in marital relationships—painful and exasperating though they be—can make us stronger, develop godly character in us, and strengthen our faith for the long run.
Unfortunately, not all marital struggle results in spiritual maturity. We must first deal with two of the most persistent and damaging aspects of our sin nature: selfishness and pride. Our selfish nature tells us we deserve better, we should get even, or we should avoid further pain and just run. Meanwhile, pride keeps us from seeking and/or offering forgiveness. The result is further division, resentment, and regret. This is injury, not growth.
. . . into Gain
Spiritual muscle is developed when we acknowledge and confess our selfish, prideful ways and ask God to help us. Instead of focusing on the emotional toll that marriage sometimes takes, we must recognize the opportunity it presents us to love our wives the way Christ loved the church—selflessly and unconditionally, showing honor instead of contempt.
Bottom Line
Jesus calls us to abandon our self-defenses, bring our problems to Him, and learn to love. Pray and persevere in your marriage!