Pride tells us our hurtful words and actions are justified and we have nothing to apologize for. Fear tells us to protect our image or we will be disrespected, dominated, or deemed inadequate. The result of this pride and fear is a battle for control that only prolongs bad feelings and undermines the trust needed in a healthy relationship.

Take Care to Tidy Up

Being the first to apologize is not a sign of weakness, nor does it mean the other person is right. On the contrary a sincere apology displays strength of character and true concern for the feelings and dignity of the person we’ve offended.

Scripture clearly teaches us to be humble and not hold ourselves in higher esteem than others. And as husbands and fathers, we desire to protect our families against anything that would harm them physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The combination of these two qualities—humility and strength—is called meekness. Far from being weak, it’s strength used for the benefit of others. It’s a quality that pleases God and helps create a safe, healthy environment for everyone.

Bottom Line

Surrender your pride and apologize. It shows obedience, courage, humility, love, and strength. Does anyone come to mind?