1. Listening Well Makes Others Feel Valued
When you give someone else your full attention, you send a powerful message that says, “You matter to me.”
Think about Jesus with the woman at the well (John 8). As she poured out her heart to Jesus, he wasn’t scanning his cell phone news feed, contemplating his next sermon, or looking over her shoulder to see if his disciples were bringing lunch. He was completely focused on the person standing in front of Him. He was fully present; not rushed or distracted.
His attentiveness to her was strikingly different from anything this woman had experienced before. She was used to being slighted and unheeded. No one else gave her the time of day.
By the way he listened, Jesus gave her the gift of value.
When people feel heard, they feel valued. Author, David Augsburger, made this poignant observation: “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.”
So, put your cell phone away, look people in the eye, give them your full attention, and encourage them to share their stories.
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