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February 16, 2011 

Words Can Captivate Your Man  

Sharon Jaynes 


(In honor of Valentine's Day, Sharon's February devotions will focus on marriage.)

Today's Truth 
"A good wife is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds" (Proverbs 31:10, The Message).

Friend To Friend 
Today, I want you to use your imagination. I want you to imagine your husband sitting at his desk or at a quiet place at work. Imagine him lost in thought about how blessed he is to have you as his wife. He holds your framed picture in his hand and moisture begins to pool in his eyes. He is captivated.

All the riches in the world are not to be compared with the jewel I have in this woman, he muses. What did I ever do to deserve her? God has given me such a gift. All our married life, she has done nothing but love me, bring out the best in me, and look out for my best interest.  All the guys at the office are envious of our relationship. I see the way their eyes soften when she comes by just to tell me hello, grabs my hand when we're at office functions, or pecks me on the cheek for no apparent reason. I notice that her loving words to me are in stark contrast to some of the cutting remarks of other wives…and so do my friends. I look around at the accomplishments of my life, but having this woman as my wife is my greatest. Oh sure, there are many women out there in the world who are accomplishing great feats, but my wife…well, she surpasses them all.

What a picture! That's the woman I want to be, don't you? And amazingly my words can be the determining factor as to whether this scenario is possible or not. Did you know that there are words your husband longs to hear? Did you know that there are words we should never say? Let me give you a few from my book, The Power of a Woman's Words.

Words to Never Say to Your Husband  

1.      I told you so.   

2.      You just don't think.  

3.      It's your fault.  

4.      What's wrong with you? 

5.      I can't do anything to please you.

6.      All you care about is yourself.  

7.      You never listen to me.  

8.      I don't know why I put up with you.  

9.      What do you want now?  

10.  How many times do I have to tell you?


Words Your Husband Longs to Hear 


  1. I've been thinking about you all day.
  2. What can I do for you today?  
  3. How can I pray for you today? 
  4. The best part of my day is when you come home.
  5. You are one of God's most precious gifts to me.  
  6. You are so wonderful. 
  7. You look so handsome today.  
  8. I don't feel complete without you.  
  9. I will always love you.  
  10. I trust your decisions. 

Today, be aware of the words you say to your husband. Do they build him up or tear him down? Do they make him glad he came home, or wish he hadn't?

Let's Pray 
Dear Lord, please keep watch over my lips today. Help me use my words to speak life to those I come in contact with today. Help me use my words to build up and not tear down.

In Jesus' Name,


Now It's Your Turn
Why not pick out 1 or 2 phrases from the list of words you husband longs to hear and try them out with your husband today. You might be surprised just how much his eyes light up! When you love your husband well, God says "Well done, my good and faithful servant!"

I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's devotion.  Let's chat at

More From The Girlfriends
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband's dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you'll want to read Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For by Sharon Jaynes for an insightful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role only you have in your husband's life.   

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