This matter is your responsibility, but we will be with you; be courageous and act. EZRA 10:4
I used yesterday's reading to let Jim and Shirley Dobson's son, Ryan, tell his own adoption story. Stories like this are so rich with the loving sovereignty of God—how He takes two needy situations and unites them in one holy purpose. For His glory.
We must never forget that the choice of a young, frightened girl to stand in the face of a personal storm and believe God for something better is an act of sheer courage. Being pregnant and unmarried, though sadly not as uncommon as it used to be, still invites sideways looks and quick glances at the young girl's ring finger. To carry a child to term instead of choosing abortion, to endure the feelings of shame that rise up as a young girl begins to show, is an unavoidable embarrassment like few others.
Ryan, reflecting on the experience of his own birth mother, said, "I talk to adopted kids all the time who think somehow they've been abandoned, and I say, ‘No, no, you have no idea what it means to go through a pregnancy.' I've seen my wife go through it. I've seen how tired she is. And to think that a young 17-year-old girl did that for me, not being married—and on top of it all gave me up to give me a better life, never to see the rewards of it . . ."
Yes, Ryan, it's truly amazing.
Perhaps you're watching an unmarried pregnancy up close in your neighborhood, your church, your extended family . . . maybe even in your own.
I pray that you will be the one who offers encouragement, strengthening her in the heroic decision to choose life for her child.
What is your typical response to seeing a young, unmarried, very pregnant girl? Talk about how the Christian community can celebrate the protection of unborn life with a young girl who's made a mistake.
Pray for the Christian community to welcome those who've made mistakes, offer the healing balm of love and celebrate the heroism of those who choose life and not death.