The Last Parachute
By Carlos Santiago
The plane was eerily silent as he tightened the final strap on his wife’s parachute. Their single engine Cessna was losing altitude rapidly. All he could hear was the howl of the wind outside, creaking of metal, and his wife’s breath. She was terrified.
“I love you,” he whispered, hands on her shoulders. He felt her begin to relax in his calm steadiness.
“Okay. Now let me help you with your chute!” she said as he turned to open the plane door. Then, without another word, she felt his powerful hands shoving her out into the void. She would later learn they only had one parachute.
Ask any husband if he would be willing to die to save his wife and most would say yes without a second thought. This form of heroism is often seen as the ultimate expression of love—the stuff of songs and legends.
In a lot of ways, dying for our wife is easier than living for her.
When Jesus chose to sacrifice Himself for the church, His bride, He set the standard for husbands everywhere. Through His journey to the cross, He showed us how to:
- serve others (John 13:1-17)
- swallow our pride (Matthew 27:27-31)
- give up our rights (Philippians 2:6-8)
- do something we don’t want to do, for the sake of others (Luke 22:42)
By nature we are selfish creatures. We work hard to safeguard our rights and we’d much rather have others serve us.
So how can a husband love his wife like Christ loved the church? When Christ endured the humiliation of the cross, He wanted to wash us, to make us holy and without blemish. As husbands, we’re similarly motivated.
Without such purpose, the nobility of our self-sacrifice is lost. When the best interests of our wife is the goal, we can more easily decide when to give in, when to stand firm, and when to give her the last parachute.
The good stuff: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. (Ephesians 5:25-30)
What could this sacrifice possibly look like?
- doing some extra housework
- coming home early and taking care of the kids so your wife can enjoy rest or relationships with friends
- overlooking an insult to model a picture of God’s grace
What would you add from your own situation? (What would your wife add?)
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