3. They Are Asking for Validation
As our adult kids leave the nest, they might not fly in the direction we hope. Watching them make mistakes and figure things out can be painful and worrisome. However, there will be a time when our children start asking for validation. They’ll want to know that everything is going to be okay, and that no matter what, you still love them.
As Christian parents, it’s best to validate our kids by reminding them of who they were created to be. This way, we aren’t validating their sin choices or wrong behavior, but we are assuring them of our love, and God’s purpose for their lives.
Here are a few specific ways to validate our grown kids without compromising our faith:
- Point out their God-given strengths such as compassion, servitude, and loyalty.
- Acknowledge their feelings while steering them towards God’s truth.
- Commend them on a job well-done.
- Encourage them to seek God in all things, and know that He is with them.
- Offer words of affirmation—words that build up their faith and life.
The prophet Jeremiah received validation from God in Jeremiah 1:5, when the Lord said, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew a you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
God’s validation of our kids is far better than any we can give. That’s why, assuring them of the Lord’s purpose for them is so important. If your adult children are seeking your approval, offer what love and support you can without deviating from the truth. Hopefully, your unconditional love and friendship will draw them closer to you and the Lord.
You probably know your kids better than anyone. As you watched them grow up, and did your best to raise them, you know how they give and receive love. Keep these things in mind as they reach out to you for friendship. After all, this is a special time you don’t want to miss.
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