1. What Is Motivating Your Purity?
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Early on in our marriage, someone told my husband and I that if we use each other as motivation to stay pure, we would fail every time.
Why? As fully human, sinful creatures, we know we will disappoint one another. It’s easy to justify sinning against our spouse, because we know the tables will be turned at some point.
This is why our motivation must always be about our Heavenly Father. 1 Corinthians 10:31 tells us that whatever we do, do all to the glory of God.
If we have a true love for the Lord, reverent fear of the Lord, and a deep understanding of the amazing grace He has lavished on His children, then staying pure for His sake should be motivation enough!
Sadly it often isn’t, despite our best intentions. So, as we strive to be more Christ-like, we should check our motivations and be willing to put some safeguards in place.
2. Are You Being Honest?
We tend to hide our sexual sins from each other. We fear the reaction these confessions might bring. And if we’re honest, we know that once our sin is exposed, we’ll be expected to change.
I challenge you to be honest. Learn from the consequences, accept the expectation to change, and embrace sanctification.
Meditate on 2 Timothy 2:19-21. These verses tell us that everyone who confesses the name of the Lord MUST turn from wickedness, and those who do will be instruments for special purposes, made holy, useful to the Master and prepared to do good work.
Doesn’t that sound better than lingering in secret sin?
Confess any active sexual sin in your life and then make a practice of being open about what tempts you. While the marriage relationship is unique in every way, we must remember we are more than husband and wife.
We are also brothers and sisters in Christ and, while we can’t ignore the damage that is done by sinful behavior, we need to be less concerned about our feelings and more concerned about each other’s souls and relationship with the Lord.
We need to help one another avoid stumbling blocks and resist temptation, but we can’t do that if we aren’t honest with one another. For instance, if you and your spouse regularly enjoy a movie or series that tempts you to have lustful thoughts, then you need to be honest about it.
A godly spouse would rather give up a favorite show than to have you fall into temptation. Be honest with yourself and be honest with your spouse.
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