Marriage is a lifelong process of learning, changing, growing, and adapting. We are all a work in progress, and because of that, so is our marriage. I owe the health of my marriage to two things: God’s unrelenting grace and mercy first and foremost, and secondly, the authors, mentors, teachers, and speakers who have spoken wisdom into my life every step of the way. We are so ill-prepared for marriage in the Church.
Marriage is THE ONLY thing in life in which you get a license to do, before you’ve actually learned how to do it. You HAVE TO LEARN ALONG THE WAY if you want to have any chance of succeeding at this thing called marriage. I find that very concerning.
For this very reason, I felt led to tackle some of the harder, yet hopeful, conversations about marriage in my new book for couples and singles, Choosing Marriage. I remember when the idea first got planted in my heart, I questioned God. Is this really something that needs to be written? Hasn’t it all already been said? Do I really have to talk about all this hard stuff? But, in an act of obedience, I started writing, and God has completely transformed my thinking and opened my eyes along the way.
There is SUCH A NEED for one reason and one reason alone: because there is SO MUCH HURT. God led me to write this book because He has a heart for the broken! And because of this, my heart has been transformed to have that heart, too. And I have personally learned so much along the way. Don’t stop learning. I beg you. No matter what pit you find yourself in today, I pray that God will give you the courage to learn and grow, because the MORE you know, the BETTER you will do.
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