Dr. David Archives

Unable to find a way to each other, feeling the hardness of your mate’s heart, you wonder what can be done now?

We often say we crave more intimacy with our mate, yet we are unable to give it. We say we want closeness but don't know how to obtain it.

Opportunity plus vulnerability equals catastrophe. If you don’t know your vulnerabilities, you can be taken off guard by them.

A man sent to counseling, without some element of internal motivation and absent significant input from his mate, will likely end poorly.

Two different people, from two different backgrounds, with two different personalities often are the basis for conflict.

Intimacy—“into me see”-- requires safety and vulnerability, but to be vulnerable means you must trust the other person. You must know them and base...

Most of us claim to want intimacy, only to spend much of our lives protecting ourselves, denying our vulnerability.

Do you and your mate struggle to have healthy conflict? Join the club. Many couples struggle to keep conflict to a minimum and relational pleasure...

Paul must have been thinking of families when he said, “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.”

Scripture is replete with admonition on the matter: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” (Romans 12:18)

Scripture tells us very clearly that in this life we will have crises. However, we are told that problems and crises can make us stronger.

You can save your marriage, but not on your own! You need God's wisdom.

While you may legitimately be upset with your mate, you can still find aspects about your mate to appreciate and value.

Before seeking any change it is important to be clear about the issues. What is bothering you and why?

Couples who succeed at managing their emotions stand a much better chance at problem-solving.