I needed help—and so do you.
In my own story, my propensity to think negatively toward Steve scared me. I knew I needed help to break free of those bad habits.
Wanting to become the wife I longed to be––but having no idea how to make that happen––I looked to couples in our church whose marriages I wanted to emulate.
Steve and I worked with the youth in our church, so I had opportunities to meet their parents and observe how they interacted as husband and wife.
The couples who still held hands and enjoyed each other’s company, after years of marriage and childrearing, were the ones I wanted to get to know.
I knew these couples held the secret I needed to discover how to build a marriage with no regrets.
Titus 2 instructs the older women to teach the younger how to love their husbands, so I decided this is where I should begin my quest to becoming the wife I longed to be.
And do you know what I found? A wealth of women who:
were not perfect, but real
became my friends
invited me to their Bible studies
taught me from scripture
shared their own stories
Learning from them gave me hope that God will transform anyone willing to allow Him to work in their hearts and minds.
I began to pray as the psalmist: “Search me Oh God and know my heart, try me and know my anxieties and see if there is any wicked way in me and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23-24).
As I studied scripture with my godly mentors and listened to their wise counsel, God showed me areas He wanted to transform in my heart and mind. Know this: when you devote yourself to studying God’s Word, you’ll never see yourself more clearly than through the lens of scripture.
While God revealed to me the thoughts and intents of my heart and I adjusted to walk in obedience to His truth, I was no longer a victim of my wrong thinking. And I’m confident the same will be true for you.
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