You sit down with your spouse for a long overdue Friday night dinner date. You finish ordering, and then start talking about the kids as if on autopilot. Tommy’s been acting up in school. Lexi wants to start ballet lessons but who’s going to drive her? There’s a school field trip coming up to Washington DC; should one of us chaperone?
Forty-five minutes later, dessert is served and you’re still talking about the kids. Now please don’t misunderstand. Talking about your kids and assessing what is working and what isn’t is important. Parents should have many conversations about how they want to raise their kids and what skills their kids need to learn next. However, your home cannot solely revolve around the children. Before baby made three (or many more), there were two – a happy couple with hopes and dreams, and plenty to talk about that had nothing to do with children.
How would your next date go if you couldn’t say one word about your kids? Would you stare blankly at one another in awkward silence? Maybe you picture yourself fidgeting with your phone, checking for texts or emails to fill the time. You shouldn’t get stuck talking about the weather when you’re out with your favorite person. Here are a few ideas to get your mind thinking of better conversations you can have with your mate on your next date.
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