10. Expect the best.
1 Corinthians 13 paints a beautiful picture of love that “always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Putting confidence in our spouse is an act of love in itself. When we let go of suspicion, doubt, and fear and choose to hope and trust in one another, love will flourish.
Each of us tends to live up to other’s expectations, whether good or bad. We long to know someone believes in us. We’re motivated when a loved one names a talent or strength we don’t yet see in ourselves. We feel hope for the future when our spouse holds hope we’ll overcome the challenges of today. When our husband or wife places trust in us, we’re inspired to become worthy of that trust.
In most relationships, trust can stand alone without love. My doctor doesn’t need my affection to do her job. The mail carrier will drop letters in my box every morning whether I adore him or not. But in marriage—and in our relationship with Jesus--love and trust are inseparable. As you take steps to build the trust between you, celebrate the love that grows and thrives before your eyes.
Joanna Teigen and her husband Rob have shared over 25 years of marriage and life with five kids, plus a beautiful daughter-in-law. They’re a neat-freak married to a mess, an explorer to a homebody, and an introvert to a ‘people person.’ But they agree their vows are for always, children are a gift, and prayer is powerful.
Joanna is the co-author of A Mom’s Prayers for Her Son, 88 Great Daddy-Daughter Dates, and a variety of other resources for couples and parents. She looks forward to meeting you at GrowingHomeTogether.com.
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