1. Say “no” to social media comparison
Who hasn’t been the slightest bit jealous of a friend’s vacation posts on social media? Photos of couples paddle boarding by moonlight, or having a candlelight dinners on the ocean’s edge, often create a desire to compare our marriages to others. However, comparison can become a dangerous and destructive habit by adding unnecessary pressure. When one spouse constantly feels like the other expects something they cannot deliver, it creates a hurtful sense of defeat.
We must say “no” to comparing our marriages to others and expecting our spouses to act accordingly. As we scroll social media, it would be wise to set up mental and emotional boundaries to guard against wanting what others have. Instead, we need to say “yes” to God’s specific plan for our marriage relationship.
Here are some ways to safeguard your marriage against social media comparison and say “no” to the damaging effects it can have:
If unrealistic expectations are an issue for you, stop scrolling through social media! Discontentment and comparison will only be fueled by constantly viewing what everyone else is doing.
Stop following and lead the way.
When tempted to mimic someone else’s marriage, make the decision to stop following and start leading. Be the one who posts helpful and encouraging posts about marriage. Find activities that you both enjoy and make time to do them. Leave the comparison behind and forge your own path of marital bliss.
Start thanking God for your spouse.
Each time your mind is filled with comparison, stop and thank God for your spouse. Thank Him for your marriage and everything that makes your relationship unique. Spend time asking the Lord to show you His direction for your marriage. His plans are far greater than our own!
“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor’s.” (Exodus 20:17)
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