7. Pray together
How can a couple think about separating when they are keeping each other accountable, praying for each other’s needs and aware of each other’s struggles?
However, due to people’s busy schedules, it is easy to skip one day, then two, and the next thing they know they can’t remember the last time they prayed together. As with any other spiritual discipline, prayer is not only how we connect with God, but when we do it together as a couple, connects us with each other as well.
If it has been a while and you don’t know how to start, begin by purchasing a small devotional for couples. Many Christian publishers have good, quality devotionals that deliver deep material that can be digested in as little as fifteen minutes. Start by reading that together and then pray about what you discussed. Take baby steps and begin with only fifteen minutes.
As you practice, it will become a habit and soon you won’t remember the last time you didn’t pray together. The more you pray together, the more you bond with each other. The more you bond, you become not only are significant others but best friends. Best friends helps a marriage thrive instead of merely survive.
The Holy Spirit is responsible for the conviction, and challenge in our lives. Ask Him to soften your heart towards your spouse. Our hearts are not fixed on one emotion; our heart is actually desperately wicked and cannot be trusted! Just because you feel one way now, doesn’t mean it can’t change. Choose to love your spouse in the way they best receive it.
A great resource to learn more about this is Dr. Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages.” Dr. Chapman lists five ways your spouse receives love: words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time and physical affection. Do what you can to love your spouse in the way he/she best receives love the best. It will pay dividends in the closeness of your relationship. Spouses who feel closer to each other want to be together for the long haul.
Michelle S. Lazurek is an award-winning author, speaker, pastor's wife, and mother. Winner of the Golden Scroll Children's Book of the Year and the Enduring Light Silver Medal, she is a member of the Christian Author's Network and the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association. Her first book with Leafwood Publishers, An Invitation to the Table, came out September 2016. She also teaches at various writers' workshops, such as the Montrose Christian Writers conference. She and her husband live in Coudersport, Pennsylvania, with their two children, Caleb and Leah. For more information, please visit her website at http://www.michellelazurek.com/.
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