7. We think that marriage is about us, failing to realize how much it is really about God.
The beauty of marriage in all its glory can only be seen as it’s held up against the ferocious love of God. We mess this up often, by trying to do this marriage thing outside of God’s design and purpose. We forget to reflect him, and to see him reflected in one another. We fail to prioritize him, and make our marriage about us instead of about him. The best marriages I have ever seen were devoted to the reality of God’s bigger story for their lives and relationship. Marriage becomes so small when it’s all about us, but so spectacular when it’s bound to his glory. There is absolutely no way around it.
I don’t claim to have all the answers – and I never will. But personally I am praying that God continues to transform my heart and my expectations of marriage, so that I can be opened to experiencing and enjoying the gift of marriage the way God intended it to be received: Til death do us part.
May God give us the strength to take back the things that we’ve gotten wrong with marriage and, by his grace, help us to make them right.
*As a licensed professional counselor, I believe that certain marriage problems require professional support and counsel to help facilitate the need for change in one or both parties. If your marriage problems are pushing you to consider divorce, consider consulting with a professional counselor by visiting www.aacc.net, and finding a counselor near you.
Article ran originally on truelovedates.com. Used with permission.
Debra K. Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in Relationship and Marital issues. She, her husband and two children live in Hershey, PA. She is the author of the new book True Love Dates (Zondervan, 2013), challenging young men and women to do dating in a way that is psychologically sound, emotionally healthy and spiritually grounded. Visit www.truelovedates.com and follow her on Twitter to get your dating questions answered and to learn more.
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