2. Struggling over Financial Issues
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Devising a financial plan as a couple can go a long way in reducing marital stress and strife.
When my husband and I married we brought debt into our relationship. We had car payments and credit cards, student loan debt, and of course the basic cost of living, rent, cell phone bills, insurance and so on. We had been talking about money throughout our engagement and had a vision of our plans as a couple, but just months before our wedding day I was laid off from my job.
In a moment everything we had planned for changed. I was blindsided, unemployment was not something we had anticipated. The stress of entering a marriage without a steady job strained us both. We started having disagreements, which led to fights.
Money can be an incredibly charged subject. Even discussing budgets, income and spending can lead to disagreements and fighting. We’ve experienced it, as have many of our friends. Statistically, a high rate of marriages that end in divorce site financial issues as the reason.
Rather than being surprised by the unexpected, like we were, being proactive about finances can help strengthen your marriage. When it comes to most marital challenges, financial challenges included, talking about it is the first step to resolution.
There are fantastic resources out there to help start the conversation. Often these types of tools are available in local churches.
But, sometimes, underneath financial issues, there is a deeper root issue. People's attitudes towards money can be indicative of unhealed wounds, like shopping addictions or an overly strict budget. A wise counselor can often decipher the source of those issues and help set your relationship on a path of longevity.
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