How Can Christians Establish Good Boundaries While Growing a Romantic Relationship?
The Bible has much to say about our conduct as Christians. We belong to Jesus and, as His, we are to reflect Him to the world. It’s not an easy endeavor — abstaining from what the world throws at us in every form imaginable (social media, television, print media, billboards, even non-stop images hurled at us in most retail stores and even gas stations). We truly are aliens and strangers here (John 15:18-19; John 17:16; Hebrews 11:13-16; 1 Peter 2:11). Our conduct, while seeming prudish to unbelievers, is to be without reproach. The Lord has placed His Spirit within us as a guarantee we are His (Ephesians 1:13). We are sealed and we can call on Him for help in any and every situation (1 Corinthians 10:13).
That being said, a Christian doesn’t date just to date. A Christian should pray about the spouse the Lord has chosen for them, and when someone appeals to them, a series of checks and balances needs to occur. Preventative measures against temptation are of paramount importance.
- Immerse yourself in the Word. There is no greater teacher than the Holy Spirit as he guides you through God’s Word.
- Pray fervently to stay pure.
When thinking of a possible mate, ask yourself:
- Is the person a believer? (2 Corinthians 6:14)
- Does the person model godly behavior in all other parts of their life?
- Advice from the Bible and from other godly Christians should be heeded.
- Counsel from a pastor and his wife will aid a couple’s decisions
- Since we are to be above reproach, practicing self-control is a strong witness to unbelievers. Whether we are aware of it or not, people are watching us.
Living above Reproach
The world will tell us everything is acceptable. But is it indeed? God’s Word says different, and as Christians we are to stand on His Word and follow His commands to lead a holy life. “Be holy for I am holy” (1 Peter 1:16). Christians who long to be more and more like Jesus are to live lives above reproach (Colossians 1:22), avoiding the very appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22). Staying pure for our King is hard work, but one day when we stand before the Lord, we will long to hear Him say, “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:23). Being an excellent steward of our bodies, including how and whom we kiss, matters.
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