10. Don't make your visits about you.
The weeks after the birth of a baby is the appropriate time for new parents to focus on their own needs. They’re trying their best to keep another human alive and thriving, and if it’s their firstborn, everything is unfamiliar and daunting. Being grandparents with a heart to serve our kids grants us a marvelous opportunity to learn to live a life of others-centeredness, as Christ modeled to us.
Galatians 5:13: “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather serve one another humbly in love.”
We may desperately want to hold that sweetly sleeping baby, but if mom and dad’s objective is to let baby sleep uninterrupted, we’re thwarting the long term goal. We may not like the way they’ve chosen to schedule-feed, demand-feed, breastfeed, bottle-feed, co-sleep, cry it out, and a myriad of other perennial parenting choices, but it’s not about us. We, as grandparents, need to be about them. Number one fans. Head cheerleaders. Champs in coming alongside our kids as they begin to raise their own.
Enjoy your new role as a grandparent. This truly is the sweet season when we get to have a life of ministry and devotion that will reach far into the future, sending ripples of Christ-like love to our grandchildren, their children, and many more to come!
Kendra Fletcher is a mother of 8, speaker, author, and podcaster. She is the author of Lost and Found: Losing Religion, Finding Grace, and Leaving Legalism, and she regularly writes for Key Life Ministries. The Fletchers reside in California, where they play in the Pacific Ocean as often as possible. Find her here: www.kendrafletcher.com
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