3) Your grandchildren will grow to understand the sacrifice you made
This isn’t the reason that grandparents raise their grandchildren, but as grandchildren grow up, they will come to realize the sacrifices that were made. I have a friend I’ll call Mary who ended up raising her two grandchildren. Our kids would play together so I got to know Mary pretty well. I admired her decision to raise her grandchildren. Instead of looking toward retirement for her and her husband, they did all the things parents are required to do.
Now that her grandchildren are grown with children of their own, Mary is enjoying all of them in a special way. She has the satisfaction of knowing she chose the hard path. All out of love. For her own child, and for her grandchildren. Grandparents raising their grandchildren are to be commended. They are true servants.
4) Your grandchildren will see your relationship with God up-close
While it’s true that all grandparents have the opportunity to demonstrate how to trust God, those who are raising their grandchildren are afforded even more opportunities. Your grandchildren can see what you do when little things go wrong. When we see our grandchildren only now and then, we can show them a little. But when they live within our walls, they see the best as well as the worst we have to offer. And it can be wonderful when you are trying to show your grandchildren how to depend on God for even the little things.
Those that raise their grandchildren also have a say as to the child’s upbringing. When you are not raising them, you don’t really have a say in that. Raising children leaves that responsibility squarely on your shoulders.
I was fortunate growing up. I had two sets of grandparents whom I loved. We saw my maternal grandparents every Wednesday night when we would go over to their house. I looked forward to seeing Papou and Yia Yia Savas, and was certain to be offered Kool-Aid in their special little cups with glitter embedded in the plastic.
But we actually lived in the same building with my paternal grandparents. As little children, after my brother and I had breakfast with our own family, we would go upstairs and my grandmother would ask, “Have you eaten yet?”
And I would say, “No.” Then she would place large cups of almost white coffee in front of my brother and me. Coffee so sweet, just like the memory.
I loved both sets of grandparents, but I knew my paternal grandparents more because we saw them every single day.
Grandchildren are truly a gift from God. Let’s pray for all the grandparents.
A Prayer for Grandparents
Father, we want to thank you for our grandchildren. We love these precious ones you have placed in our family. God, for those who are raising their grandchildren, will you give them the strength they need for each day? God, help them to enjoy their grandchildren as they invest in their lives. Refresh these grandparents, God. Let them know how they are serving you, with their choice to raise their grandchildren. I commit every grandparent to you as well as every grandchild. Thank you, God. For children and grandchildren were your idea. We pray this in your Son’s precious and Holy name. Amen.
Anne Peterson is a regular contributor to Crosswalk. She is a poet, speaker and published author of 14 books including her children’s book: The Crooked House. And one of her poetry books, He Whispers: Volume 1 is wonderful to read to children. One of Anne’s favorite titles is Grandma. To connect with her, visit Anne’s Facebook Page, or sign up for her updates at her website www.annepeterson.com, to receive one of her free eBooks.
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