10. Extreme Dependence
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If your partner says they can’t live without you, that might sound like the sweetest thing you’ve ever heard. But those words are loaded. That kind of dependence can lead to possessiveness, intense jealousy, and even depression when you stop being their “everything” because the feelings have faded. Anyone who makes their relationship their entire world will soon have their world shattered when you, like any human, disappoint them, don’t meet their expectations, or don’t share their clinging affections. You can’t be another person’s everything, and vice versa. God must be your all-in-all and your reason for living, or the relationship will be in trouble.
In my book, Letting God Meet Your Emotional Needs, I point out that only God can fulfill our deepest longings and satisfy our need to be loved, cherished, fulfilled, and complete. The minute the person you are dating tells you that you are all they need to be complete and fulfilled, consider it a warning. That is a task you will never be able to accomplish. Instead, find a person who says, “God is my everything” and you’ve found a keeper.
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and award-winning writer who helps women and couples strengthen their relationship with God and with others. She has authored more than a dozen books including When Women Walk Alone (more than 130,000 copies sold), When God Sees Your Tears, When a Woman Overcomes Life’s Hurts, Drama Free, and her newest book, 12 Ways to Experience More with Your Husband. She and her husband, a pastor, co-authored the book, When Couples Walk Together: 31 Days to a Closer Connection. For more on her resources to help strengthen your walk with God, your dating relationship, your marriage, or your parenting, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.
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