13. Are you a cat or a dog person?
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Or maybe they’ll surprise you and say “lizards.” This also naturally leads into whether they currently have any pets, and what sort of pets they may or may not want in the future. The sort of animals that people prefer can say a lot about their personalities, and it’s an important aspect if you’re looking at compatibility. If you’re allergic to cats and your date can’t live without them, that’s something to consider!
14. Are you working on any personal passion projects?
Whether this is knitting a scarf, writing a novel, or running a program for underprivileged children in your neighborhood, sometimes passion projects have little to do with hobbies or jobs.
These sometimes random projects can make excellent topics of conversation and lend a glimpse into your date’s interests and passions that may lie outside of what they may typically choose to identify themselves with.
15. What are you looking for in a relationship?
This question isn’t as casual as the others. However, especially if the date is going well, at some point this is a question that should be asked before things progress very far. Before those later relationship questions like kids and boundaries, it’s important to know what the other person wants in a relationship.
Are they looking at this date as something fun and casual? Are they looking more for an activity buddy than a life partner? Are they dating in order to pursue a serious relationship? Are they looking to date in order to find a spouse, or is marriage the furthest thing from their mind?
Even among Christians, there can be a variety of views on dating. Some may be comfortable with casual dating, even casual physical interaction, while others don’t date until they feel fully ready for marriage. It’s best to be upfront about intentions.
In the end, a date is an interaction between two people, just like any other interaction you might have. You are trying to get to know the other person—not impress them, not evaluate them, not interrogate them. If the reason for dating is to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, there should be no pretenses.
Use these questions as they are helpful, but remember that being natural, and following God’s lead, come first. The person sitting across from you is just that—a person, a fellow human being created in the image of God and loved by Him.
Dating can be awkward, daunting, but whether you come away feeling you might be a good match with someone or not, every conversation is an opportunity to show God’s love to others and care for them the way He does.
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