3. Let God Have the List
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God’s best may not meet every box you have made for yourself on a list of hopes for a spouse, but you can rest fully assured that the person God intends for you will be His best.
In the book of Ruth, Boaz was not as young as Ruth, he did not do the initial pursuing, and he was not the most eligible bachelor of the age, but he was God’s best for Ruth. Ruth is remembered in the Bible because she persistently waited, trusted, and acted for God’s best for her life, but this came from walking daily through seasons that seemed hopeless.
No matter how dark the night may seem, it is not impossible. God has a plan, but we have to trust Him for what He deems His best, and we must act in courage when we are prompted to do so by the Holy Spirit.
4. Become Who God Made You to Be
Character development is an often glossed over consideration while waiting to become part of a team in marriage. Some people meet as children and end up together, but even in their young age they are growing and learning how to become to the people they need to become for marriage.
For many people, character development takes ample amounts of time, life experiences, and changes in perspectives before they can step into the role of being part of a team.
Phillip Holmes of Desiring God shares, “Are you expecting marriage to miraculously change you? Married you will be the same you. God, because of Christ and through his Holy Spirit, will change you when you’ve surrendered yourself to him, whether married or unmarried.”
This is a tough pill to swallow at first, but it is true. If God intends marriage for you, you will not change as a person. You will not be healed or cured of sins or temptations, if anything they will become more pronounced and exposed.
It is then one to consciously press into God to ask for His refining fires to help burn out impurities. Be open to new seasons, opportunities, or revelations He will bring about.
Becoming the person God made you to be is not just to get a ring on your finger, but it is more about becoming the highest and best person you can be for yourself, and most importantly for God. We did not come to earth just to get married and have children, we came to glorify God in the highest, and that includes allowing Him to mold, shape, and prune us to His fitting.
What a beautiful gift in marriage it would be as well to know fully and wholly who you are in Christ first and foremost in order to give your best to your spouse.
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