Seek the Kernel of Truth

In every accusation made against us there is a ‘kernel of truth.’ Sometimes we have to look hard and listen even harder to find it, but it’s there. “But, what if what they’re saying isn’t true?” you ask. Still seek the ‘kernel of truth.’ Look hard and listen even harder. Ask questions to seek more information. Why is that person upset? What has happened to provoke them into making such accusations? I suggest that in the majority of situations we will find something we can hang our hat on, something we can own as truth. Try it and see what difference it makes in the relationship. 

Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD, is a Christian Clinical Psychologist and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center.  He has helped bring healing to thousands of marriages and individuals and is passionate about working with couples in crisis.  If you need help, please reach out to his Client Care Team at 206.219.0145 or through their website.  Dr. Hawkins is also a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and is a best-selling author of over thirty books including Never Fight Again, Gauranteed and When Loving Him is Hurting You.  He has two grown sons, is happily married to Christie Hawkins, and lives on Bainbridge Island, outside Seattle, WA.