When You Win, You Lose

You can win, defeating your mate as you would an enemy, but you will lose your relationship. Think about it. While winning seems pleasant for the moment, you separate yourself every time from the one you care about. Winning an argument means you will defeat your mate, putting down their point of view, causing them to feel devalued and worse, worthless. Is winning really worth that cost? Of course not. 

Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD, is a Christian Clinical Psychologist and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center.  He has helped bring healing to thousands of marriages and individuals and is passionate about working with couples in crisis.  If you need help, please reach out to his Client Care Team at 206.219.0145 or through their website.  Dr. Hawkins is also a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and is a best-selling author of over thirty books including Never Fight Again, Gauranteed and When Loving Him is Hurting You.  He has two grown sons, is happily married to Christie Hawkins, and lives on Bainbridge Island, outside Seattle, WA.