10. Return to a “newlywed” mentality.
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None of us are the same people we were the day we said “I do.” We’ve all been weathered and worn down by the storms in life, affected by aging, and heart-hardened since the day we promised to love “til death do us part.” But hopefully all we’ve been through has made us wiser and more like Christ in the process.
Ask God to help you see your spouse the way you once did and the way God always has. Pray for the ability to love not only who your spouse really is, but who he or she is becoming, by God’s grace. You would like the same from your spouse, so love by example.
I’ve found the easiest way to do this is to remember the ways I have fallen short of my husband’s expectations and then extend that same grace toward him. Do I want him to see the best in me? To treat me the way he did when we were first married? Do I want him to focus on my strengths, rather than my weaknesses and the ways I’ve disappointed him? Yes! Then I should lovingly do the same for him.
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and award-winning author of 16 books who has been married 30 years to her husband, Hugh, a pastor and introvert. Together, they co-authored the book, When Couples Walk Together: 31 Days to a Closer Connection. Cindi’s newest book, 12 Ways to Experience More with Your Husband, will help you experience more joy, passion, and communication in your marriage, no matter what your husband’s personality. For more on her resources to strengthen your walk with God, your marriage, or your parenting, see Cindi’s website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.
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