1. Let Yourself Off the Hook
A few years back I realized that if gift-giving isn’t your love language, then you’re never going to be able to keep up with those around you, and that it’s just a part of who they are. Let yourself off the hook and stop trying to “keep up.”
Those who truly love gift-giving aren’t doing it because they expect you to match them. They give because that’s how they shine best.
Remember, while it’s a privilege to show love through giving, it’s not a contest. The reason we embrace giving this time of year is because we want to imitate our Savior. God gave his Son who then willingly gave His life so we could become part of His family. Our gifts are supposed to be an act of love. This yearly ritual should be us as a community remembering what God has done for us.
The hustle, pressure, and pageantry of gift-giving in our culture can distract us from the reason for this season. Take a breather and let go of any expectations you feel you have to meet in order to impress your loved ones.
Dial it way back and just give what feels doable, loving, and God-honoring this year.
2. Embrace Your Love Language
Everyone shows love differently! Maybe gifts aren’t your strength but that’s okay. Use your love language to guide your gift-giving this year.
If you love being together more than you love finding the perfect thing for your loved one, then give them your time or an experience for the holidays! Plan a special date night for your spouse.
Give your kids gift cards to the movies and promise them each a special movie “date” over the coming year. If you show love best through quality time, then find ways to carve out time for your loved ones this Christmas season.
Acts of service could be a way you excel in showing love. Gift your parents a coupon for free lawn mowing provided by yourself or take the time to tackle other projects that need to be done.
If you love through words of affirmation, writing a heartfelt holiday letter sharing what those around you mean to you is sure to bring smiles to their faces.
Physical touch may show your love best. Deliver each gift with a warm hug. Even if the gift is sub-par in some way, the hug lets them know you did your best and love them still.
This season is all about honoring God and honoring those around us through acts of generosity and love. Not all gifts of love require a bow and a price tag.
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