3. Grace for the Widow and Widower
For the person whose spouse has passed away, Valentine’s Day can be a landmine of a holiday because it can be a reminder that there was once a deep love that was now feels ‘taken away.’
Into that loss, God speaks a special message of grace. The prophet Isaiah writes to those who have suffered this loss, “For your Maker is your husband – the LORD Almighty is his name” (Isaiah 54:4). While this verse is written specifically to widows, the truth extends to widowers as well. It is a reminder that God wants to be a spouse to you, to provide you with the comfort you experienced in marriage, as well as help you with the tasks and responsibilities of life.
God’s love for you is woven into the pages of your Bible.
- Nothing in all of creation can separate you from God’s love (Romans 8:38-39)
- God will be your defender and fight for you (Psalm 68:5; Deuteronomy 10:18)
- God will never forget you, His beloved child (Isaiah 49:15-16)
Encouraged by God’s love for you, consider how to spend your time this Valentine’s Day. It’s okay to celebrate the special love you shared with your spouse as a gift from God.
Consider journaling your feelings of love and gratitude for the shared years and memories. If it is meaningful, buy your spouse’s favorite flowers and display them as a reminder of the love you shared.
If you have children, grandchildren or a special relationship with a family at your church or in your neighborhood, send them gifts of cards or treats as a celebration of the love God gave you in marriage, and continues to display to you through them.
You may be surprised how much they need the encouragement, too.
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