What about what they did/said?
I’m not saying to pretend you were not hurt, or that the words or actions of others did not slice right through you. What I am saying is that God, who is the author of forgiveness, can empower you to do the unthinkable—to forgive the one who hurt you.
And when Jesus forgave our sins, he also forgot them. Read Hebrews 8:12. God wipes them away completely, promising to forget. That is unbelievable, and yet, it’s what he said. Forgetting is an important part of forgiveness. Otherwise there are traces of resentment that will somehow be evident, whether you are aware or not.
One of my aunts went to her grave with resentment, because her sister refused to give her the one dollar she needed to buy a pair of shoes. Her sister had been dead for years. To NOT forgive was her choice.
The holidays are fast approaching. This year can be different. You can sit down before the holidays and grant forgiveness. And when the potatoes are passed, and you look around the table, you can know that your decision to forgive and forget pleased the heart of God. Releasing all of that will free you and your offender to enjoy God’s blessings.
The table could look great, the house can be festive, but if we are sitting around with festering hurts, it’s a facade.
Dear Lord, there may be readers who have been deeply hurt in their lives. You were there witnessing that hurt. God, maybe some have held onto their hurts for a long time. Father, we know when Jesus died it was for all our sins, even that one that still hurts. God, will you help us when we are stuck in not wanting to grant forgiveness? Please help us remember when we think someone needs to pay, someone did. Jesus did. Help us Lord to grant grace, just like you did. We pray this in Jesus’ precious name. Amen.
Anne Peterson is a poet, a speaker, and an author of 14 books. Anne understands abuse as she has written a memoir, Broken: A story of abuse and survival. You can see more of Anne’s work by checking out these links. And although Anne has many titles, her favorite is still ‘Grandma’ to 4 grandchildren here and one in heaven. Download a free copy of her book Real Love by joining her email list. Sign up for anne’s newsletter and receive her free eBook, Helping Someone in Grief: 17 Things You Need to Know. Visit her website at www.annepeterson.com. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Medium.
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