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A Word with You - June 2, 2011

  • 2016 Jun 02


How to Prove You're a Man

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I think this is a pretty well-known fact, but high school athletes are pretty impressed with their own bodies. You know, they lift, they work out, and they admire their new build, and they compare how much weight they can bench press, and how fast and how far they can run. And I guess that's okay. But the problem is you begin to think that manhood is that physical strength. Well, listen, it goes way beyond that. But men of all ages, not just high school athletes, seem to believe that conquest is what shows you're a man: the conquest of a woman, a goal, a competitor. Actually there are some very little boys in some very big bodies, and there are some people we might call wimps who are really in the winner's circle. See, we might be missing what manhood really is.

Well, our word for today from the Word of God is about how to prove you're a man, and it's in Titus chapter 2, verse 6. Actually, Titus is a young pastor, and he's being instructed as to what to teach to each of the age groups in the church. And here now are the young men. So he turns to the young men - the people who are just forming their concept of manhood, and interestingly enough he wraps up his description of manhood in one word. "Similarly," he says, "encourage the young men to be self-controlled." That's it...God's message to men in one compound word - self-controlled!

Proverbs chapter 16, verse 32 is one of my favorite verses about manhood. It says that "the man who controls his spirit is stronger than the man who conquers a city." Okay, he can control himself, and God says that is more impressive - biblical manhood. The Bible is saying it's more impressive to do that than to make a big conquest. So, the question about your manhood is, "How well are you managing yourself?"

Now, what does it mean to have self-control? What do you have to control? Well, for example, how well do you control your temper? Strangely enough, some people think that the opposite of controlling your temper is manly; that you can show how mad you are. No, the inventor of manhood says it's the ability to control your temper that makes you a man.

How about controlling your passions? See, a biblical man is not one who turns to a woman and says, "How far can we go?" No, he's the one who sets a high standard and takes the moral cat-and-mouse game out of the relationship and says, "We are going to be pure." He's able to control his passions. He's able to control his mouth and tame his tongue - the profanity and the put-downs. He controls his time; he uses his time carefully, not carelessly. He's not an impatient person; he's able to control that impatience. That's manhood! He can control his selfishness. You can tell because he puts others first.

You see, sometimes biblical manhood is the opposite of the superficial, self-serving myths that we've been fed about manhood. I trust the manufacturer of manhood - He knows best. God knows what it is, and He tells us where we get self-control. He says, "The fruit of the spirit is self-control."

Many a man has tried in his own efforts to become the man that all the people around him need him to be. But, you know, we can't change ourselves. But the Bible says, "If anyone is in Christ he's a new creation." The old is gone and a new life has begun. There were 12 very manly men in Jesus' day who found the one place, the one person, the one cause for which they could give everything. And that was Jesus. It might be today that you need to heed the same invitation He gave men 2,000 years ago and He's been giving men for 2,000 years since - "Follow Me." Check out our website, and find out how to do that.

If you're a woman today, encourage this kind of self-control in the men you know. And if you're a man, understand one of the most important muscles you have to develop - the spiritual muscles that give you control over your temper, your passions, your mouth, your impatience. Self-control - that's how you prove you're a man.

© (c) Ronald P. Hutchcraft
Distributed by Ron Hutchcraft Ministries, Inc.

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