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Discover the Book - Apr. 26, 2009

  • 2009 Apr 26

How to Lead Family Devotions



How to Lead Our Homes to God Through the Family Alter


We are taking a look at our owner’s manual. You see we were bought with a price, we are no longer our own. The Owner of your life and my life has written out just what He expects from each of us.


He also has included instructions that keep us running in tip top condition - FOREVER.


Have you looked at your Bible that way this week?

ü      It is the exact and perfect and errorless guide to maintenance (how to stay victorious),

ü      fuel needs (how to grow by eating spiritually),

ü      warranty questions (assurance of salvation) and so on.


There is nothing more vital nor practical than to consult the Owner's Manual God's Word!


This is part one of a look at what the Owner of we who are saved, has to say about His expectations for the Family, specifically dads.

This is the standard, it is the way God designed life to be.

You may be single, single parenting, childless, grandparents, and so on, but what we are looking at is vital for all of us because it is God's Word, and God's Way!


Part One:

Dad’s—It’s Not Easy


To declare God’s requirements for a family to grow in Him is an awesome task -- even humorous! One professor early on told of a fellow:


ü      He started in ministry fresh out of Seminary and as a newlywed, he preached “The Ten Commandments of Child Rearing”.

ü      Two years and one child later he changed his sermon to: “Five Biblical Principles for Parenting”.

ü      A few years and another child later he retitled his sermon: “Three Suggestions for Parents”.

ü      And as you can assume after ten years and three children, he was selling used cars....


Parenting is difficult at times! At one bookstore I counted 54 titles on marriage and family with 18 on how to raise kids... many didn’t even agree!


One great authority on life Mark Twain had an interesting insight on parenting. Consider this advice in those exasperating moments all of us as parents share. Twain’s philosophy was: ‘when a kid turns 13, stick him in a barrel, nail the lid on top and feed him through the knothole. When he turns 16, plug up the hole!’ Enough of human options.


Stages of God’s Work In Dad’s


Look with me at Ps. 127-28, Stages of God’s work in growing Dads.



I think it is fascinating to dig out and study what God recorded in a three thousand year old Hebrew manuscript from the Jewish Wisdom Literature called the Kethubim, known to us today as the Proverbs of King Solomon.


Neglecting Parenting Means a Disobedient Child


If we have a disobedient child, Proverbs says he will be:


ü      EFFECT #1 = A grief to his mother: Proverbs 10:1 A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son [is] the heaviness of his mother. Proverbs 17:25 A foolish son [is] a bitterness to her that bare him. (KJV)

ü      EFFECT #2 = A rebel to his father: Proverbs 15:5 A fool despiseth his father's instruction: but he that regardeth reproof is prudent. (KJV)

ü      EFFECT #3 = A sorrow to his father: Proverbs 17:21-25 He that begetteth a fool [doeth it] to his sorrow: and the father of a fool hath no joy. 25 A foolish son [is] a grief to his father. (KJV)

ü      EFFECT #4 = A disaster to his father: Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son [is] the calamity of his father (KJV)

ü      EFFECT #5 = A disgrace to his parents: Proverbs 19:26 He that wasteth [his] father, [and] chaseth away [his] mother, [is] a son that causeth shame, and bringeth reproach. (KJV)

ü      EFFECT #6 = A user of his parents: Proverbs 28:24 Whoso robbeth his father or his mother, and saith, [It is] no transgression; the same [is] the companion of a destroyer. (KJV)


Do we want to have shame on your hands? Do we want to have a disaster on our hands? Just don’t do anything, and that’s what we’ll have.


How to Keep From Raising Disobedient Children


In a study conducted several years ago, sociologists Sheldon and Eleanor Glueck of Harvard University tried to identify the crucial factors in delinquency (Unraveling Juvenile Delinquency (Cambridge, Mass.: Harvard University Press, 1950), pp. 257-271). They developed a test by which they could predict the future delinquency of children five or six-years-old. Their follow-up tests, four years later, provided to be ninety percent accurate. They determined that the four necessary factors to prevent delinquency are:


·        THE FATHER’S DISCIPLINE: Discipline must be firm, fair, and consistent.

·        THE MOTHER’S SUPERVISION: A mother must know where her children are and what they’re doing at all times, and be with them as much as possible.

·        THE FATHER AND MOTHER’S AFFECTION: Children need to see love demonstrated between the father and mother, and have it physically demonstrated to them.

·        THE FAMILY’S COHESIVENESS: The family must spend time together.


Quite a promise -- what an opportunity to have such a rare and precious home.


American Families are Crumbling


Dr. Albert Siegel said recently in the Stanford Observer:


When it comes to rearing children, every society is only 20 years away from barbarism. Twenty years is all we have to accomplish the task of civilizing the infants who are born into our midst each year. These savages know nothing of our language, our culture, our religion, our values, our customs of interpersonal relations. The infant is totally ignorant about communism, fascism, democracy, civil liberties, the rights of the minority as contrasted with the prerogatives of the majority, respect, decency, honesty, customs, conventions, and manners. The barbarian must be tamed if civilization is to survive.”



What is the Key for a Godly Dad?


Emphasize Biblical Communication


Deuteronomy 6:7-9 “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.8 “You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.9 “You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.


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