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Discover the Book - Oct. 28, 2009

  • 2009 Oct 28

Bitterness Hinders Grace-Energized Wives and Mothers


God's high calling for grace-energized women is to love their husbands and children. To most of us mature 21st century believers that may sound wonderful. To them it must have sounded impossible

The Cretans of Paul's day lived in an ego-centered, selfish society that knew and cared little about forgiveness.  Roman society became so decadent that it saw forgiving people as weak and unforgiving ones as strong.  Cretans celebrated vengeful gods and exalted as heroes those who took vengeance on others.  The result was a society so much like America today--filled with bitterness, vengeance, anger, hate, and hostility.   

Bitterness Pervaded the World of the Bible 

God wanted the lost pagans living on Crete to see their changed lives and be confronted with living examples of Jesus Christ. Society was to be flooded at every level with the irrefutable proof of changed lives.  

Paul sent the details for the invasion of this strategic island in his letter to Titus. We have been studying these admonitions in Titus 2. These life-truths have always deeply impacted any society. When the Gospel, that brings this impossible life into the heart of a newly saved individual, starts to work through Christ's church, the world takes notice.  

God has always worked out His plan in this world through individual believers who struggled through life. One of the struggles believers have always faced while seeking to follow the Lord is bitterness. 

The key passage in the New Testament that warns about bitterness is Ephesians 4:30 " And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption." NKJV 

The immeasurable power of God is stopped when His people disobey. God's grace teaches us to deny ungodliness, but when we resist that grace; our sin grieves and quenches the Holy Spirit.

So Paul says grieve not the Spirit, don't quench Him, because apart from God's power nothing can be done that will last. Just as the congregations back then were told to deny ungodliness in any form, so must we also today. 

Bitterness is a very deadly, fast-growing, and easily spread form of spiritual cancer. 

If you are infected by bitterness, get out of your self-imposed prison now, don't stay in a moment longer. Paul said that the Spirit of God, in the power of Christ's cross can set you free. The escape route has been marked for us by the One who should have had all the reasons in the world to be bitter but was not.

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