How to Be a Wonderful Dad
Genesis 18:19 "For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the LORD, to do righteousness and justice, that the LORD may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him." (NKJV)
SO WHAT ARE WE MISSING TODAY?
In a study conducted several years ago, sociologists Sheldon and Eleanor Glueck, of Harvard University, identified several crucial factors in the development of juvenile delinquents. They created a test that can, with about 90 percent accuracy, predict future delinquency of children five to six-years-old. They listed four necessary factors in preventing juvenile delinquency:
- The father's discipline must be firm, fair, and consistent.
- The mother must know where her children are and what they are doing at all times, and be with them as much as possible.
- The children need to see affection demonstrated between their parents, and from their parents to them.
- The family must spend time together as a unit.
In a similar report, but from a Christian perspective, Dr. Paul D. Meier, a Christian psychiatrist, wrote that the key to right parent-child relationships could be summed up in five things:
- Parents' love for each other and for the children;
- A good parental example; and
- A man at the head of the home.
Is that true? Listen to the world, they have taken note of it. Marion Levy in her societal critique has written,
"for the first time in the history of humankind the overwhelming majority of little boys and little girls continued under the direct domination and supervision of ladies until they reached maturity. This has never happened before in history. Crusades, wars, migrations, pestilence - nothing for a people as a whole ever before took so large a percentage of young adult and older adult males out of the family context for so much of the waking time of the children. Most of us have not even noticed the change, nor do we have any idea of its radicality."
Know their job is important but their home is essential
Express deep love for their wives but always save some for their children
Pay attention and respond to their children but even more to God. How bad is it? U.S. News and World Report states these facts: 1 in 4 children born have no father to welcome them at birth. Only 40% of children grow up in 2 parent families. A million children each year go through divorce, 9 out of 10 will stay with their mothers. And when he is present a normal dad gives his children only 3 minutes of time to them with his undivided attention!
Often bouquets are thrown to moms on Mother's Day and dads get a shot between the eyes on Fathers Day. Amazingly every one of the 27 references to fathers in Proverbs is POSITIVE! And, when we get to the New Testament the pattern continues. Everything we see him do is right on.
If you are a dad, follow his lead.
If you want to be a dad, listen up and learn.
If your children are grown, listen and share. Let's all commit to be fathers of the Word!
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