The Exile of Marriage Problems
“I was married by a judge. I should’ve asked for a jury.” –Groucho Marx
Why is it that the things closest to us can make us feel the furthest away from everything?
Sometimes you can experience a personal exile in your own home. Your marriage is growing colder by the day. You’ve become co-workers, co-chauffeurs, or co-income producers, rather than husband and wife.
The flame of romance has dwindled to a flicker, or perhaps it has been extinguished altogether. Recently, you found yourself thinking, “You know, I’m not sure what will be left of this thing we call our marriage.” In this exile, it is especially difficult, because the person you thought God selected as your best friend and life partner is no longer living life by your side. Emotionally, they are… somewhere else. It seems insurmountable.
But God has handled bigger problems:
Who has measured the waters in the hollow of his hand, or with the breadth of his hand marked off the heavens? Who has held the dust of the earth in a basket, or weighed the mountains on the scales and the hills in the balance? –Isaiah 40:12
The answer is… God (of course). In Revelation 22:13, Jesus says, “I am the Alpha and the Omega, the First and the Last, the Beginning and the End.” He is endless. So, if you think the rift in your marriage is greater than your God, remember how infinite He is and turn to Him. Our God can, and will, bridge the gap in your marriage. He can fill the empty spaces, and, in His time, He may bring your marriage back from exile altogether.
Dear God, in this emotional exile, Lord, I turn to You to meet the core of my needs for love and acceptance. Thank You for Your love. Thank You for Your presence in me. Live through me to love my spouse with Your perfect love in tangible ways today. Amen.
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