Now that we have a clear picture of what jealousy is and the detrimental impact it can have, we need to examine practical ways to remove the problem from our lives. If you've discovered that you are affected by envy, follow these steps today.
First, you must acknowledge that jealousy exists in your life. Be honest with yourself, and do not allow the envy to fester in the back of your mind.
Second, admit that you are in conflict with God. This is an important step, as it will prevent you from dismissing jealousy as "normal" or "acceptable" behavior.
Third, thank God for what He's doing in the other person's life. Perhaps He is performing a mighty work—praise Him for it!
Fourth, do something nice for the person. This may seem impossible, but the act of doing a good work—even if you don't feel like it—will start to short-circuit the negative feelings you have.
Fifth, ask the Lord to show you how He views that individual. This is a most helpful step, since it causes us to look beyond our own perspective and see the other person as someone valuable to God.
Sixth, refocus your attention on what God is doing in your life. His plans for you are just as big and important as His plans for the person you envy.
There's one more step that you must take: Adopt a Psalm 37:4 mindset. When you truly delight yourself in God and trust Him to bless you according to His will, you'll no longer feel a need for jealousy in your life. Then deep contentment will replace the old sense of envy and dissatisfaction.
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