The “Why” Of Romance
Guys, if there’s any area in which we need to study our wives in order to serve them better, it’s in the department of romance. Romance inspires her and brings feelings of marital intimacy to the surface.
Yet ask most guys what romance is and he’ll begrudgingly mumble something about candlelight dinners and roses. But it’s more than that. In fact, for some men, it might not be candlelight dinners and roses at all. That’s because the chief ingredient of romance is knowing what special thing sparks her romantic motor.
But why is romance so important to our wives? Perhaps the best way to answer this is by considering a different question: why is respect so important to us? The answer to both questions: it’s how we’re made. It’s what makes us tick.
Therefore, for the vast majority of women, going through marriage without romance is the equivalent to how a man would feel having to go through life without respect. In other words, much of the color of life disappears, and everything turns to gray.
Guys, that’s why it’s so important for us to study how to cultivate romance with our wives; and in particular, how to do this in a way that is according to each of our wives’ own personality and liking. This is an important aspect of giving our wives the sacrificial love we’re called to offer, and that they deserve to receive.
Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.