Giving Something Back
We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
It's relatively easy to know how to make amends for the property we've damaged. It's much harder to know how to make amends when it comes to the intangible losses in our human relationships.
The apostle Paul wrote, "Give to everyone what you owe them: . . . give respect and honor to those who are in authority. Owe nothing to anyone—except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God's law" (Romans 13:7-8). Regarding marriage he said, "The husband should fulfill his wife's sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband's needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations" (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).
When we were under the influence, we may have failed to show respect and honor to others. We can go back now and express our feelings of love and respect. Whenever we're not sure what to do, we can never go wrong by expressing love. This entails treating others as we would like to be treated. In marriage, it's not enough to stop giving ourselves to our addiction or to others. We need to give ourselves back to our spouses, devoting ourselves to them sexually and in every other appropriate way.
As Christ has loved us, so we ought to love others.
Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.