We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Deception and addictions go hand in hand. We've probably lost the trust of others, if we've told lies and hidden the truth. Making amends includes reestablishing a healthy trust.
In the early church many people sold their possessions and donated the money to the poor. "There was a certain man named Ananias who, with his wife, Sapphira, sold some property. He brought part of the money to the apostles, claiming it was the full amount. With his wife's consent, he kept the rest. Then Peter said, ‘. . . You lied to the Holy Spirit, and you kept some of the money for yourself. The property was yours to sell or not sell, as you wished. And after selling it, the money was also yours to give away. How could you do a thing like this? You weren't lying to us but to God!' As soon as Ananias heard these words, he fell to the floor and died. Everyone who heard about it was terrified. . . . About three hours later his wife came in, not knowing what had happened. Peter asked her, ‘Was this the price you and your husband received for your land?' ‘Yes,' she replied, ‘that was the price.' . . . Instantly, she fell to the floor and died" (Acts 5:1-5, 7-8, 10).
Ananias and Sapphira had a chance to make things right by being honest with Peter. Instead they chose to continue with the deception. Our recovery program will include making amends for the lies we've told and the truth we've hidden. We are making amends every time we choose to tell the truth. We're also allowing trust to be reestablished after a history of deception.
Trust can be recovered over time by means of truth and grace.
Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.