Finding a Confidant
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. - John 1:9
God is always our first and primary audience for confession. But He isn’t our only audience. Scripture tells us also to confess our sins to fellow believers. This is an extremely important and beneficial aspect of spiritual growth and health, if conducted wisely.
First, let me say that this type of confession isn’t an all-encompassing command. That is, it isn’t “spilling your guts” to anyone and everyone nosey enough to listen. Never confess to anyone who isn’t spiritually mature.
Second, confession to fellow believers is an act of trust, and this makes you highly vulnerable. The person to whom you confess must be able to keep your confession confidential. If you can’t trust your confidant, he shouldn’t be your confidant. To be of value, confession must be honest and complete – you must feel safe in your selection of confidant.
So, stay true to God’s instruction to confess our sins to one another, but be wise and be cautious.
The worst of my actions and feelings do not seem to me so offensive as the cowardice of not daring to admit them. -Montaigne (1533-1592)3
Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.