an inspirational entry about filling voids
I must admit that I spent a portion of my life trying to find someone to complete me. Most of my efforts centered around my relationships, particularly romantic ones.
This romanticized idea of someone completing us fits great in the context of a movie love story, but when it comes to real life, it's a really dangerous thing to believe.
Women are notorious for seeking out relationships with others who will make us feel more complete. We attempt this by changing who we are, talking differently, endorsing things we don't feel good about, and obsessively being available when we aren't.
I can't lie: I tried this. I waited by the phone for hours for someone to call. When he didn't, I felt incomplete.
I painted my toenails the color another boyfriend preferred. When his color preference wasn't enough to keep him around, I scrambled to find another way to make him stay. I thought my completeness depended upon his endorsement of me.
This idea of completeness is possible...just not through human relationships, including marriage. A partner was meant to compliment, not complete another's life. Colossians 2:10 tells us about the only way completion is truly possible when it says: "and you are complete through your union with Christ."
I don't know what you've tried to find completeness. Maybe you are like me and sought it in your relationships. Or maybe you have never found it, yet you keep on searching. If you're looking for something needing no addition...nothing supplemental or extra, look no further.
You are complete in Jesus.
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Lisa Whittle relishes her roles as coordinator of She Seeks, family girl, and daughter of Jesus. She no longer paints her toenails any color but what she wants, which is typically a dark shade of purple. Find out more about Lisa at www.lisawhittle.com.
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