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Jennifer Maggio

Jennifer Maggio is a mom to three, wife to Jeff, and founder of the national nonprofit, The Life of a Single Mom Ministries. She is author to four books, including The Church and the Single Mom. She was named one of the Top 10 Most Influential People in America by Dr. John Maxwell in 2017 and 2015 and has appeared in hundreds of media venues, including The New York Times, Family Talk Radio with Dr. James Dobson, Joni and Friends, and many others. 

How to Prepare for the Storms of Life

  • 2023Sep 13

For those of you who don’t know my story, the abbreviated version is this. My mother was killed when I was 17 months old. My father was devastated and turned to alcohol and women to cope. He married a total of 6 times, not counting all the girlfriends. My home became very unsafe. I endured 10 years of sexual assault, physical abuse, and malnourishment during those years. At 19, I found myself pregnant with my second child, living on food stamps & welfare in the projects in an extremely abusive relationship. I have no money, no friends, and no hope. The end of that chapter is that God redeemed me. He restored all the locusts had eaten. I got married; my husband adopted my children. I became successful in Corporate America, but I never forgot the moments of huddling on a bathroom floor in government housing, contemplating taking my own life, or the years of parenting alone. I learned to endure the storm. And as I think about the many storms of my life, there are key things that the Lord has taught me that I believe will help you today. 

Let’s begin with Matthew 7:24-29. 

“‘Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse because it is built on bedrock. But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash.’ When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, for he taught with real authority—quite unlike their teachers of religious law.” 

In this passage, Jesus is closing out His Sermon on the Mount. I love that He closes it by preparing the crowd for the challenge. He is giving a secret to the Kingdom. If you obey me, you will endure; you will be protected; you will be blessed.  

  1. Acknowledge that storms will come // Denial is not an effective storm technique. We are all going to face storms. Storms come from places we expect and places we don’t. Sometimes, they hit is from all levels at once – rain from above, floods from beneath, and winds from left and right. Do not be shocked when storms come. Jesus taught us in John 16:33 that “in this world, you will have trouble, but take heart, because I have overcome the world.” Suffering is mentioned in the Bible approximately 180 times. This indicates to me that this is going to be a common subject in the Christian experience. My question to you is this - What is your knee-jerk reaction to storms? Does your response look different than the world’s?  Here is what the Word tells us:  

    Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” (James 1: 2-4) 

    “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill out hearts with his love.” (Romans 5:3-5)

    In 2016, my husband and I lost everything we owned in the floods that impacted 150,000 lives in Baton Rouge. Now, understand that I had already been homeless. I had already been broke. I had already endured a lifetime of pain. And I cried out to the Lord. I’m in ministry. I’ve been faithful. I tithe. I attend church. I’ve already learned the hard lessons. And the Lord clearly said, “The same God who rescued you from that thing 20 years ago, is the same God who will rescue you again.”

    We must get good at enduring the storms of life. Nothing develops your faith like storms & hardship. Our physical bodies are strengthened when we exercise, e.g. sit-ups, pull-ups, push-ups. Likewise, our spiritual bodies are strengthened when we stretch & exercise our faith muscle. The problem is that, too often, we are much better at exercising our complaining muscle, our fear muscle, our bitter muscle, and our whining muscles. We must learn to praise in the pit. We cannot cower in a corner of the boat, when a storm comes. That looks no different than the world. We must learn to stand on the Word of the Lord, when nothing around us says victory.  We look to the storm and we say, “Be still.” We look at the mountain, and we say, “Move.” We look at an empty checking account, and we say, “My Father owns cattle on a thousand hills. He will supply all my needs.” We look at cancer, and we say, “Go.” We look at Satan and we say, “Flee in the name of Jesus!”   

  2. Have a strategy // You cannot control the type of storms you endure or their timing, but you can have a strategy. Different storms require different strategies. Storms can look like many things – cancer, auto-immune diseases, limited mobility, pain in the body, abuse, financial woes, fear, depression, anxiety, loneliness, or others.   

  3. Repent, when necessary // To be clear, storms come for many reasons, including testing. We see this with Job’s life, so I am not suggesting that every storm we face is due to disobedience or is somehow a punishment or a result of sin. But I do think it is critical that we address the sin in our lives. It can create a wind storm that destroys everything in its path. Storms sometimes come or stay longer than necessary, when there is unconfessed sin. We have no authority, when we are walking in disobedience. You cannot cast down anything, when you have provided an open invitation to the enemy to wreak havoc in your boat. Get the enemy out of your camp. There is too much at stake to chase gossip or porn or sexual immorality or offense. Our nation is under attack. Our babies are dying. Our marriages are failing. There is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus, so confess, ask forgiveness, turn from it, and move on. Too much is at stake.   

  4. Stand on what you know despite how you feel // Abraham never wavered in believing God’s promise. In fact, his faith grew stronger, and in this he brought glory to God. He was fully convinced that God is able to do whatever he promises. And because of Abraham’s faith, God counted him as righteous. And when God counted him as righteous, it wasn’t just for Abraham’s benefit. It was recorded for our benefit, too, assuring us that God will also count us as righteous if we believe in him, the one who raised Jesus our Lord from the dead.” (Romans 4:20-24) There is no way that Abraham didn’t feel disappointed or defeated or discouraged during his wait. His promise, most certainly, seemed forgotten on that 99th year, but the Scripture tells us that Abraham’s faith never wavered. Are you standing on what you feel or what you know? 

  5. Practice your spiritual disciplines // What does our instruction on spiritual warfare tell us in Ephesians 6:10? “We must put on the full armor of God, so that we may be able to stand firm against the strategies of the devil.” We must be clear that the enemy is coming to the fight with a strategy. The passage goes on to tell us in verses 13-17 to put the belt of truth, body armor of righteousness, shoes of peace, shield of faith, helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit. These are our spiritual disciplines. We cannot put truth, when we don’t know truth. The passage teaches us that we are wrestling against evil principalities in the unseen world. There is much going on in your storm. You must be ready. Church attendance, Bible study attendance, reading the Word, praise & worship, and prayer are all strategies to help us stand firm against the enemy.  

  6. Know your authority // The type of storm doesn't matter, when the foundation is strong. You can rebuild, if you have a strong foundation. The Word tells us in Ephesians 6:18, “Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.” Do demons tremble, when you walk by? Do you move in authority, operating in the power that has been granted to you as a daughter of the most high God? When you roll on the scene, does the atmosphere shift? Does power rise up inside you? Do you use your spiritual gifts to edify the body and cast down the plans of the enemy? Most of us don’t operate in our authority, because we don’t understand it.  

Let me close with this. Hebrews 12:26-28 says, When God spoke from Mount Sinai his voice shook the earth, but now he makes another promise: 'Once again I will shake not only the earth but the heavens also.' This means that all of creation will be shaken and removed, so that only unshakable things will remain. Since we are receiving a Kingdom that is unshakable, let us be thankful and please God by worshiping him with holy fear and awe.”  

It will ALL FALL. The temporary things of which we’ve placed our faith will fall. It will shake. Get ready. We cannot be stunned by the shaking.   

  • The faith of our jobs.  

  • The faith of our money.  

  • The faith of our government.  

  • The faith of relationships that God never intended for us to be in, whether friendship or romantic.  

  • The faith of status. 

  • The faith of position.  

  • The faith of physical beauty.   

  • The faith of microphones and titles.  

It will ALL be shaken. Only one thing remains. The faith we stand on is in the immovable, unshakable God. Faith can’t be based on our circumstances or our feelings. Our God will never disappoint us, forsake, or leave us.  It is time for this generation of believers to take the reins and lead our children, our families, our friends, our coworkers, and our communities well.    

Jennifer Maggio is a mom to three, wife to Jeff, and founder of the national nonprofit, The Life of a Single Mom Ministries. She is author to four books, including The Church and the Single Mom. She was named one of the Top 10 Most Influential People in America by Dr. John Maxwell in 2017 and 2015 and has appeared in hundreds of media venues, including The New York Times, Family Talk Radio with Dr. James Dobson, Joni and Friends, and many others. 

6 Ways to Thrive Through an Empty Nest

  • 2023Aug 23

The day my first-born got his driver’s license and pulled out of the driveway alone with my two younger daughters in tow, tears streamed down my face. One or two lone tears gently flowed down my face, but one or two quickly turned into a river, as I peered out the window.  “This is it. This is the beginning of the end.” Even then, with my son only sixteen, I was keenly aware that he would soon be leaving the nest and my daughter, only seventeen months his junior, would be following quickly behind. It was in that moment that I realized that I would somehow have to learn to live without my children in my home. I got pregnant with that son at only seventeen years old, and the thought did not escape me that I had never actually been an adult without him. I had never lived without the day-to-day demands of motherhood on my task list. And yet, that morning I knew that it wouldn’t be too long before my daily motherhood duties would be in the rearview. 

If you think that the day he got his driver’s license was bad, then you should have seen me the day I dropped him off at college. The summer before, I had spent more than an awkward amount of time with tears and doom, as I anticipated the fateful move. It was coming. He was leaving. The day we loaded his small fridge, tv, and bedding into the SUV and drove him to campus, I thought it would kill me. I smiled and took the obligatory dorm room photos with mom and son, as I hugged him and told him to “make wise choices”, but when I pulled away from that parking lot, tears flowed like a river and it easily took six months for me to get used to the new normal.  And then, my daughter left only a few months after that!  

As I have embarked upon the journey of moving toward empty nest, I don’t mind telling you that I have probably not had the smoothest of transitions. I enabled my young adult children in those early years. I nagged. I attempted to control (which, good luck with that, if you try it!)  I didn’t edge into my next season with grace, so beware! The wisdom I offer over the next few moments is peppered with the air of skinned knees and bloodied noses, as I fumbled around with the right way to become something other than mom. Here’s what I learned: 

  1. Rediscover your dreams // What did you want to be when you were little? What did you dream of doing to change the world? How did you think you may make your mark on the world? God put dreams inside you that may have laid dormant in the last season, but perhaps could flourish in your new one. Begin to pray about what God would have you to do next. Is He calling you to start a ministry at your church? Teach a Sunday school class or Bible study? Start a new business?  

  2. Relinquish guilt // Your young adult children will make mistakes. They have the nerve to have their own personalities and ideas! They will disappoint you with some choices they’ll make. Relinquish yourself from the guilt that it must somehow be a reflection of your poor parenting. We have an excellent Heavenly Father who parents perfectly and we still stray like sheep. Your young adults will fall off the proverbial wagon. Don’t allow it to immobilize you.   

  3. Rediscover who you are // Many of us have answered to the role of mom or dad for so long that we can barely remember who we were before that. And while you are indeed still a mom or dad, you are also a warrior and skier and dancer and teacher and sibling and employee and friend. You have many hats. And it’s likely that in the midst of your hairiest parenting years, you may have had some of your other gifts, skills, talents, and relationships to fall along the wayside. Pick up the old joys of yesteryear and learn who you are again. Who are you? It’s likely a question that you haven’t considered in some time and frankly, one that may take some time to discover the answer to. 

  4. Find a hobby // What do you enjoy doing? What new skill might you want to learn?  Photography? Dancing? Music lessons? Running? Gardening? Pottery? Baking? Serving others at a local food bank? Find new ways to enjoy life. And take it a step further to find new ways to serve others who may need a helping hand.  

  5. Slow down // Take a moment to smell the roses. Stop at the roadside visitor’s bureau. Tour the museum. Take the wandering road trip. If your last few years were anything like mine, they were filled with basketball, baseball, football, track, swimming, volleyball, dances, and just about any other kids’ activity you can imagine. My days were spent as chauffeur and my nights spent as short-order cook and housekeeper. Maybe the next season for you includes sitting at the coffee table a little longer or taking some time to read the book you never got around to. It’s okay to slow down for a bit and embrace your new season.  

  6. Grieve // It’s okay to not be okay for a little while. It’s okay to take some time to mourn the loss of the old season. Yes, it’s exciting for the kids to be moving into their adult years and finding spouses and graduating college and landing new jobs. It’s exciting that your role is complete in “raising them up in the way they should go,” but it can also be hard for parents to let go and adjust to the day-to-day without children in the home. There is a time for everything under the sun, including mourning. Grieve. If you don’t, it may prevent you from moving on in a healthy way. It won’t be long before you’ll move right into your season of dancing again.   

Jennifer Maggio is a mom to three, wife to Jeff, and founder of the national nonprofit, The Life of a Single Mom Ministries. She is author to four books, including The Church and the Single Mom. She was named one of the Top 10 Most Influential People in America by Dr. John Maxwell in 2017 and 2015 and has appeared in hundreds of media venues, including The New York Times, Family Talk Radio with Dr. James Dobson, Joni and Friends, and many others. 

How to Live a Balanced Life as a Single Mom

  • 2023Aug 09

There are many roles that we, as single moms, answer to: mom, counselor, friend, sister, aunt, employee, homework consultant, soccer mom, dishwasher, clothes washer, chef, and fixer-of-all problems… and so many more. In order to really embrace who we are supposed to be, we must first understand how to live a balanced life! Here are a few tips we think can help you: 

  1. Know your role // When we understand that our role in life is not to be everything to everyone, we then understand that we do not have to fix the world or our kids or our co-workers. We are not in the business of fixing others. We enhance the lives of others. We aren’t called to fix everyone. When we fully embrace that, it relieves the guilt of having to be everything for everyone all the time. We are merely human. Our Heavenly Father is the “fixer.” 

  2. Rest // In the early months of life transition, this can be the hardest. Whether it be that we are a newly single mom, newly divorced, or newly recovered or something in between, the transition is hard. As women, we are typically driven, hard-working, and passionate. The desire to see our children succeed and be well taken care of often keeps us up at night. But we must rest. We must take time to simply sleep, sit on the sofa with nothing to do, and do nothing. It is vital to our effectiveness in relationships. It is vital for our children that we be well-rested and alert and at peace.  

  3. Set boundaries // Too often we refuse to set boundaries in our lives for fear we are going to hurt someone’s feelings. Consequently, our girlfriends call us and keep us on the phone for 2 hours every night because we can’t so “no.” Don’t misunderstand. Those girlfriend chats are great, but if it keeps up from getting the necessary things done that are important for our day, we need to have a stronger boundary. Boundaries are important for every relationship. Whatever the boundaries are, stick to them. You choose them, and you stick to them. For example, if you know that between 5pm-7pm, you have a sit-down meal with family at the dinner table, then don’t accept phone calls during that time. If you have decided that one Saturday a month will be used for a cleaning day, then protect that. When we set boundaries in our lives, it tells those we work with at our jobs, our girlfriends, and our ministries that we value our rest enough to protect it. It is important that you find boundaries that work for you and your family and understand that for your own health, you need to stick to them.  

  4. Stay healthy - physically, emotionally, mentally // You cannot give when you do not receive. Stay focused on your physical health, spiritual health, emotional health. Counseling, when needed. Support groups, social clubs, Bible studies, church. Exercise classes.  

  5. Serve others // Volunteerism gives your life value, gives others assistance, provides perspective on your own life, gives you a sense of purpose.  

  6. Accountability is healthy // Your life should be structured in such a way that you are accountable to others in your life - your pastor, a mentor, friends, etc. They see things that we sometimes can’t when we are knee-deep in the midst of life. They offer perspective. They help to keep us safe. 

  7. Sabbaticals are important // Know when it is time for an extended rest. It isn’t always possible to do so immediately, but for some, it may be intentionally taking a 5 to 7-day rest from social media, work, and ministry responsibilities. For me, I have always taken extended time off work during the summer, when my kids are home from school. Whatever that looks like for you, do it when needed.  This allows for a time of refreshing, extended family time, and perspective.  

Jennifer Maggio is a mom to three, wife to Jeff, and founder of the national nonprofit, The Life of a Single Mom Ministries. She is author to four books, including The Church and the Single Mom. She was named one of the Top 10 Most Influential People in America by Dr. John Maxwell in 2017 and 2015 and has appeared in hundreds of media venues, including The New York Times, Family Talk Radio with Dr. James Dobson, Joni and Friends, and many others.