October 12, 2021
When There is No Why
by Sheri Schofield
“We’re going to go with Papa and Grannie to visit Auntie Pat,” Mama told us.
“Yay!” we yelled, running around, whooping and laughing. We hadn’t seen our cousins in several months.
Friday, we all piled into our grandparent’s station wagon. Donna, my five-year-old sister, Mikey, age six, and I all climbed into the open back area. I was eight. Mama and our baby brother, Davie, sat in the back seat. Our grandparents were in the front. Dad was working that weekend and was not part of our trip.
It was a fun visit. Each of us had a cousin corresponding to our age with whom we paired off. On the return trip, my grandfather said, “Let’s pray before we drive.” It was our family’s custom to ask for God’s protection before leaving on long trips. A big, harvest moon filled the sky later that evening. All of us children fell asleep while my grandfather drove on through the night.
The next thing I remember was waking up in a hospital. We had been in a horrible accident. My Grandfather, Mama, Donna, and Davie were gone. Mikey was not expected to live. Grannie was badly injured, and the doctors weren’t sure about her, either. My hair was filled with dried blood from head wounds, and my broken arm was taped to my body.
God sent an angel to tell me my missing family members were with Jesus now. He was dressed in a long, white robe. Nobody believed me, but it didn’t matter. I knew the truth and hugged it to my heart. I never asked, “Why?” My loved ones were gone, but they were with Jesus. It was enough for me to know the truth.
Children are like that—accepting of truth, quick to grieve loss without questioning.
Over the years, I have responded to grief like I did as a child. I understand there is no why.In accepting that, there is peace. Yes, there is grieving and remembering those who had gone on ahead of us into eternity. But for the child of God, eternity with Jesus in heaven is a sure thing. I know beyond all doubt because I’ve seen it. In knowing that, there is peace and great strength.
I didn’t stop grieving the loss of my mother until I was thirty-one, when Tim and I lost a child through miscarriage. Suddenly, I was so grateful that Mama was in heaven to welcome our son! Daniel is safe. He is with his grandma.
Jesus once held a child on his knee and said, “Unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven” (Matthew 18:3 NLT).
God intervened in my childhood days and showed me a glimpse of heaven to give me strength and courage. That lesson taught me to accept the losses he allows, without asking why. That is how children respond to a loving Father.
For me, there is no “why”. Loss is deep and painful, yes. But healing comes with acceptance, as surely as morning follows the night, when we trust God absolutely.
God sees our pain. “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds” (Psalm 147:3 NLT).
Be comforted, my friends. God loves you and will hold you close to his great heart until you enter his presence someday—if you will let him.
“And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.” And He said to me, “Write, for these words are true and faithful,” Revelation 21:4, 5 (NKJV).
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About the author: Award-winning author, illustrator, and Bible teacher Sheri Schofield ministers to children and their families through her ministry, Faithwind 4 Kids. After serving Jesus through children’s ministries and personal evangelism for many years, she understands how to communicate God’s plan of salvation clearly to those who are seeking God.
Her first book on salvation, The Prince and the Plan, was designed specifically for children. But during COVID, Sheri sensed the need to also provide help for adults. Her new book for adults, God? Where Are You?, tells who God is, how we became separated from him, and what he is doing to bring us back to himself through Jesus. At the end of each chapter is a section called “Food For Thought”, which answers questions many unbelievers have, such as—If God is good, why do terrible things happen?—Is anyone too “bad” for God to want to rescue them from sin? This biblically-based book is short and easy to read.
Join the conversation: When is the last time you asked God Why?