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Discover the Book - Oct. 26, 2009

  • 2009 Oct 26

Husbands Loved by Grace-Energized Wives

I'd like to go back with you to the beginning and together see God's original intent and plan for men who would become husbands and fathers, as seen in Adam.  

In creation God designed men to be incomplete without the woman that He made for them. When Paul instructed wives to be trained in how to love their husbands, it was a reflection upon God's original plan for marriage. Our study in Titus is just a reminder that when Christ's church has husbands loved by grace-energized wives, those wives are just following God's plan He laid out from the beginning. God made the first woman Eve to become Adam's close and cherished companion, friend, and completer. 

As we turn to Genesis 2:18, think of all that has happened from Genesis 1:1. God has made the entire universe and crowned it with His last creation, in His image, called a man. 

Then, God finds the first thing in the entire universe that was not good—it is right here in verse 18. God states that man should not be alone. So God crowns the creation of man with the creation of woman. 

Watch this great event unfold in Genesis 2:18-25 (NKJV). There is a wealth of marriage-changing truth in these few words from God. Look at each piece.  

v. 18 And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him."  

Men Need Close Companionship 

First, v.18a says literally "not good is man's aloneness." That is as clear as can be. Aloneness, solitary living is not good. One of the deepest pains sociologists have measured in society is living an isolated and lonely life. They report that such people ache with a deep pain they can't even fully describe. Adam ached and God observed and announced the solution for this great need. 

Next, in v. 18b is God's plan, "I will make him a helper comparable to him." Notice God's first reference to woman is by the title of 'helper'. English just doesn't convey what that Hebrew word means; hence it is not seen as a great title. Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary defines help as a noun meaning "one that helps, especially a relatively unskilled worker who assists a skilled worker, usually by manual labor." That definition in English is what has fueled the misconceptions of the inferiority of women and wives. If that definition doesn't capture the world's view of us quaint people called Bible-believing Christian's marriages, then I don't know what does.  

But that English definition is exactly not what ‘helper' meant to God. The Hebrew word God chose means something grand, literally it describes a person "who assists another to reach complete fulfillment". When the same word is used in other places in the Old Testament, it is used of someone who went and rescued another person. Now there we have it. 

God made woman to come to man's rescue and save him from his lonely existence. Eve was designed to rescue Adam from not only loneliness, but also to completely fulfill Adam. 

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