We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
There are conditions that drive us to our addictions. There's some need inside that makes it worth the risk involved. It deadens us to our own sense of what is right and wrong. We'll do anything to satisfy the hunger our addiction feeds. We wish people could understand that we don't risk everything good in our lives on a whim. We feel like we're starving. By now, we're coming to realize that although there are conditions that drive us to our addictions, we still must take responsibility for the wrong that we do.
King Solomon once wrote, "Excuses might be found for a thief who steals because he is starving. But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole, even if he has to sell everything in his house" (Proverbs 6:30-31).
God understands that there can be areas of starvation within us that drive us to do wrong. Certainly, once we identify those areas we will have more compassion for ourselves and from others who understand. But we're still responsible to make amends, even though this may be costly. The cost of making amends will help us face the immediacy of our need to deal with the starvation. Perhaps when we understand the hungers involved, we will be able to find the help we need to satisfy them. Only when the starvation is satisfied will we be able to remain free from our addictions.
In recovery we learn not to destroy ourselves through unwise actions.
Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.