Dr. David Archives

The mature person attends fully to the person offering criticism and leans into information on how they have caused a loved one to be upset.

Not only are emotions contagious, but relationships and relating are contagious. In other words, we tend to act like the people we associate with. ...

“I’m so frustrated,” Carolyn said, spitting out her words. “Why do I have to be the one to care about our marriage? Doesn’t he care about me at...

While we say we want our situation to change, many of us expend much energy maintaining the status quo. Change is difficult and requires something...

Do you want change in your marriage? If you’re like most of us, you want change but don’t really want to work for it.

Are there things you’d like to say to your mate but just don’t know the best time and way to say them, or whether you should say them at all?

If you are like most couples, you have not considered the power and importance of intentionality and focus.

Bullies are no less formidable as adults than they were when we were younger. By sheer force they can make our will bend to their demands.

Blame is corrosive. Blame says “You are the problem, not me.”

Could an attitude of acceptance help you determine how best to interact with your spouse?

We cannot offer anything critical to our mate unless we have first established an atmosphere of trust, safety and affection.

I remember either siblings saying to me, “Mind your own business.” At the time I took offense to the demand, but I now consider to have been good...

When I reflect on Jesus’ ministry, he was almost always calm. Not only was he calm, but he promoted calmness.

We must honestly face our issues. We must know the hidden character traits that continue to trip us up.

A boundary without consequences is not a boundary. It’s a hope or a wish or a whine.