Dr. David Archives

Offering an apology for wounds you have committed can be tricky business. There are times when it may seem like nothing you say is good enough to...

While it is so tempting to embrace magical thinking, it is overly hopeful and lacks the grounding necessary to really face problems and solve them....

Remember, your mate probably feels unsafe and hence they push away from you. Be soft and safe and ready to listen and change.

Katherine was being made the scapegoat for her husband’s abusive behavior. Many are routinely scapegoated—bearing blame they don't deserve.

We cannot determine what must be changed without assessing the impact of the damage done to us.

We cannot simply wish to change; we must be determined to change and know exactly what it is that must be changed.

Scripture tells us the truth will set us free, yet I’m constantly amazed at how reluctant we are to actually face truth.

Do you ever feel like your marriage is adrift, with no one guiding the ship?

You’ve probably heard it said, “Your capacity to experience joy is equivalent to your capacity to experience sadness and hurt.” I believe it is...

We all long to be heard and understood. There is nothing quite like the sensation of having someone sit with us while we share our heart.

It sounds easy enough. Sit back, consider what you need and ask for it. This is far more difficult than it sounds.

Emotional abuse is an epidemic in marriages today. It is not limited to physical abuse, but includes emotional power and control.

It is impossible to heal when truth emerges in drips and drabs. One dab of doubt spoils the entire fabric of integrity within the marriage.

Most of us listen half-heartedly. We hear the words they are saying but are not listening to their heart behind the words.

Integrity is required for a healthy marriage, not to mention healthy relationships in all aspects of our lives.